At a Loss for Words

 

I got laid off 3 months, 3 weeks, and 2 days ago. I’d been in that job for 15 years. I was told on a Tuesday that Friday was my last day: 3 days to pack up and say goodbye in my haze of shock and grief.

On my last day, I walked out of the office carrying 6 magazines (evidence from my last year of editorial work), 3 framed pictures of my family, and 1 plant.

And there were tears. I don’t know how many.

As a writer, it pains me that numbers tell the story of my unemployment best. A fitting injustice. As if words have abandoned me altogether.

Well, this blog is my attempt to woo them back.



Because in those 3 months, 3 weeks, and 2 days, I’ve noticed stories and truths beneath the numbers.

I’ve experienced the glory of finally getting enough sleep. The need for a whole new category of clothes: daywear. The lessons of forgiveness. The introduction of new vocabulary, such as “unemployment tan” and COBRA. The absurdity of selling yourself on a single sheet of paper. The solidarity of un-friends. The staggering and sometimes silly revelations of unemployment dreams. The messy but necessary role of faith in this process. The hidden art of the cover letter. And so much more.

Since I find myself with extra time on my hands, and have several thoughtful and word-wise friends in the same unemployment boat, I thought why not journal this journey and create a community where others can share the ride.

So here we are: The Unemployment Diary.

Welcome.

And may none of us stay here very long.


What are your unemployment numbers?

 

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Hey, I was just searching for you on the internet because I used to read your column regularly and when I went back to the site, it was gone! I was so confused, too! But I am so glad to see your blog and I hope that I will get to enjoy more of your insight here. I realize this is not your most recent post, but I found this post and felt it answered my question as to "where you went." I am truly sorry for you loss of job, but count me as a faithful reader that loves to hear what you write!

Glad to see you're still out there


This is obviously a late response, so I don't know if you'll see it, but in case you do, I wanted to let you know how glad I am to see that you're still around, still writing, and yes, still thriving. I have been through several layoffs in my time, with my last stage of non-permanent employment lasting 21 months - the longest ever. I was fortunate enough to have fairly steady temporary employment throughout at least seven of those months, however, plus severance and unemployment. But when I finally landed at my now permanent job (as permanent as any job today ever is!), I had been in financial straits for a few months, and it was scary. Plus, being middle-aged and having gone through all your savings was not a pleasant or ego-friendly experience. But I survived, and I know you will too - as trite as that may sound right now. You WILL. And thrive. You WILL. I know firsthand what the grief of suddenly and unexpectedly losing a job, especially after so long, is like. It DOES get better. And there are so many out there who stand with you figuratively if not (literally) physically. Count me as one of them who is wishing you all the best, and believing that God will give it to you...even if it doesn't feel that good all the time.
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